It’s All About Attraction
January 22, 2012 | Filed Under Relationships
You may be an idealist about love and have all these expectations about what it should be like. And you may see love failing all over the place and think you can beat the odds… because, well, you are special. You’re wrong. There are good reasons for the cycles of love and relationships. And most of them have to do with natural cycles of attraction.
Let’s keep it simple. The kind of love that everyone is after is the kind that provides two things: 1) excitement/pleasure and 2) reliability/safety/comfort.
When people lock-in to a relationship (for the reliability), they also want the excitement to continue but they make the fatal mistake of assuming that their relationship is somehow specially endowed with a self-sustaining, invincible force field… it was meant to last … so they go into cruise control. But cruise control always, always, always, ends up with the car crashed into some tree or electric pole or some other obstacle (maybe the random, big, fat cow that slipped through the fence looking for greener grass). Sometimes it’s a fatal crash.
There is only one thing that you need to do once you’re in a relationship: work on staying attractive. Think of it like a hobby. Keep yourself in shape. Be passionate about something. Dress well. Groom well. Make decisions (i.e. “Hey, let’s go out tonight” maybe on a random Tuesday).
By working to stay attractive, you’re not only investing in the current relationship, but you’re insuring yourself against things that are outside of your control (i.e. finding yourself single at the age of 40, like my favorite comedian Louis CK).
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